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Dealing with Guilt Because a Veteran Loved One is Relying on Home Care

Home Care for Veterans in Philadelphia PA

Dealing with guilt is not easy for most people. It’s easy to feel guilty when an elderly loved one is having difficulty tending to his own basic care at home and you’re not able to be there for him. If Home-Care-Veterans-Philadelphia-PAyour aging father is a veteran and requires home care, you may live relatively close enough to him that you could be his caregiver but you’ve chosen not to for a variety of reasons.

You might have many responsibilities. You could have a full-time job, are raising children by yourself, have to work several part-time jobs just to make ends meet, or simply understand how much work, time, and effort goes into being a family caregiver.

If your father has tried to make you feel guilty because you’re not the one taking care of him, it’s time to step back and allow yourself the opportunity to understand you’re making a good decision.

Professional home care is a great option.

For veterans and anyone else who requires some type of assistance at home, professional home care services is the best option. That’s especially true when you hire an agency to provide that level of care.

Hiring independently (meaning you hire somebody through a personal ad or a classified ad you saw in the newspaper or online) can pose a number of challenges. It also means the family is responsible for conducting the interview, performing any type of background check, and more to make sure the caregiver actually has experience they say they do and are honest and reliable with a clean background.

When you hire through an agency, you will likely get somebody who has prior experience working with aging individuals. There are many different caregivers who work for various agencies and that increases the choices.

While your father may be uncomfortable inviting a stranger into his home, especially at different hours of the day throughout the week, it will pass. He may try to make you feel guilty, as though your lack of ability to take care of him is a sign of a lack of concern about his well-being or even his safety.

You need to educate yourself on home care services. The vast majority of caregivers in the United States are honest, compassionate, and reliable individuals with whom your father will likely become comfortable in a short amount of time.

If you still feel guilty about your decision or other family members are trying to make you feel guilty, stand firm. You know your time limits and understand just what your veteran father requires when it comes to home care. If you are not able to provide it to 100%, you’ve made the right decision.

If you or an aging loved one are considering in-home senior care in Philadelphia, PA, contact the caring professionals at Reliant At Home Care today 610-200-6075.


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Cerie Goldenberg, MSW,LSW

Cerie Goldenberg- My name is Cerie Fish Goldenberg. I have dedicated all 40 years of my professional life practicing Social Work in Montgomery County, PA.I earned aMasters Degree of Social Work from the University of Toronto and I am a Licensed Social Worker in Pennsylvania.I was an active participant in the growth of Montgomery County Office on Aging and Adult Service developing needed services and resources for both younger and older adults.

After40 years of being a problem solver and advocate for those in need including my parents who lived into their 90’s and chose to remain in their home, I remain passionate about providing the highest level of service possible to those individuals for whom we are providing care.It is my vision that those of us who choose to remain in their home to be given the opportunity to do so in a safe and dignified manner. Hence the birth or Reliant at Home Care.