Are you the type of person who has a tendency to try and fix everyone’s issues? You hear about problems your adult child is having in her relationship. You offer advice to try and make things better. Maybe some coworker is having a problem in their marriage and you offer advice.
It’s fine to want to help people, but if you have a tendency to try and fix everything and you’re a caregiver for an elderly or disabled loved one, the risk of burning out due to stress and anxiety can actually increase.
What can cause this desire to fix everything around you?
Some people have a martyr complex. Some people have the desire to simply take care of those they care about. Some try to avoid their own issues in life by projecting these repairs on other people.
Whatever your motivation is to try and fix things around you, for yourself, for people you care about, and even acquaintances at work, when you’re taking care of an elderly or disabled loved one, you may project that desire to fix everything even more acutely on them.
This can cause a great deal of tension in your relationship.
This elderly loved one, such as a parent, may need help, and they may have turned to you because of your proximity to them. They may also trust you completely. However, over time problems in that relationship might develop.
If you’re trying to fix everything for them, you may remove a lot of personal responsibility from them. They may like the fact that you are the one cleaning their house. They may enjoy you taking out the garbage once a week. However, they may not enjoy feeling completely helpless.
You just want them to be safe and happy.
As a family caregiver, what’s most important to you is that they’re safe, healthy, and happy. You think taking care of the menial and tedious tasks in life are going to make them happy. What you may fail to realize is that due to health issues, physical limitations, and other challenges, it might take them longer to perform and complete certain tasks, but they can still get them done.
Sometimes, as a caregiver, you have to step back and support that senior, not do everything for them. If you try to do everything, it’s going to create more stress and tension in your own life and that’s going to increase the risk of burnout.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Dresher, PA, contact the caring professionals at Reliant At Home Care today 610-200-6075.
After40 years of being a problem solver and advocate for those in need including my parents who lived into their 90’s and chose to remain in their home, I remain passionate about providing the highest level of service possible to those individuals for whom we are providing care.It is my vision that those of us who choose to remain in their home to be given the opportunity to do so in a safe and dignified manner. Hence the birth or Reliant at Home Care.
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