Most people have plenty of responsibilities throughout their life. When they notice an aging parent beginning to struggle with their own basic care, it usually means they’ll be concerned about them, worried about their safety, and wondering what they might be able to do to help.
Many take on the role of a caregiver.
Looking after the welfare of an aging parent or other family member might seem like the best option, but does that mean you’ll become the parent? It’s not a normal relationship.
The parent remains the parent, but when the adult child is helping them get around, do some cleaning, and maybe keeping up with their hygiene, the instinct to become a ‘parent’ to that parent might kick in.
Is that what your mother or father needs?
Does your parent need a parent? Probably not. They need a support. They may need someone with whom to talk. They might need a friend. They need someone to listen to them.
How can you offer this?
There are numerous ways an adult child can support their aging mother or father without becoming another parent to them. One of the most effective things people can do is hire a home care aide.
This is a professional caregiver who may work for an agency and can be hired for just a few hours at a time. These home care aides can offer a great deal of comfort, especially if the senior requires assistance with personal, intimate matters, like getting into and out of the shower, going to the bathroom, or getting dressed. Sometimes that could be an embarrassing situation for an adult child to help with.
Experienced caregivers also focus on the desires of the senior.
Family and friends are usually worried most about safety for the elderly loved one, so they may discourage him or her from pursuing certain activities. That may seem like no big deal, but it could very well be for the senior. Experienced aides will listen to what their clients may want and encourage them to pursue those things, offering the physical assistance they need to do them when needed, and that helps promote higher quality of life moving forward.
Instead of trying to tell an aging parent what he or she can or can’t do, should or shouldn’t do, provide them the support they need. That’s best done by hiring home care support.
If you are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Allentown, PA, contact the caring staff at Extended Family Care of Allentown. Call today at (610) 200-6097.
Carole gained most of her formal managerial training by attending Pennsylvania State University in pursuit of her degree in Health Policy and Administration. She attributes her informal training to have been acquired on a more personal level. Carole understands first-hand what families may experience when allowing a home care provider access to their home while providing care to their loved one. She was a caregiver for two of her grandparents until their passing and believes in the importance of allowing family members the opportunity to remain in the comfort of home if they so desire. Carole is also the mother of a child with multiple medical conditions who requires nursing services in the home. It is because of her personal experiences that Carole understands first-hand how important it is to manage a quality, high-integrity home care agency in which clients and families can place their trust and be confident they are receiving the best care possible. Carole also believes in the importance of giving back to the community. Therefore, she volunteers and spear-heads fundraising activities for a variety of charitable and professional organizations, namely the Pennsylvania Home Care Association, Autism Speaks and Avengers Baseball, Inc.
Carole, a resident of Lehigh County, is married and has 2 children. In her free time, she is the “team mom” for her son’s tournament baseball team, enjoys cooking, spending time with her family and friends, and is an avid NY Giants, NY Yankees and Penn State football fan. Carol is a verified Google Author
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