You don’t think of yourself as a caregiver. After all, you’re taking care of your spouse. You got married and took vows that you would be there for each other in sickness and in health, in good times and bad, for richer or poorer. You took those vows seriously and this is just part of the process. However, if your spouse relies on you for any level of daily care, whether it’s helping him get into and out of the shower, assisting him onto and back up from the toilet, or preparing meals which you hadn’t done previously in your relationship, you are a caregiver.
When you are a family caregiver, you will experience stress.
But let’s say, for example, this is your elderly father whom you are supporting. He lives in the same town. You thought it was no big deal to stop by every day after work to check in on him. At first, he kept telling you things are okay, he was fine, he was safe, and he didn’t need anything. You felt relief, but you needed to see him to have your mind set at ease.
Over time he began asking for a few things around the house. Several months later he began calling for assistance with various things. Before you realized it, you were going over to his house after work and not getting home until 9 o’clock or even 10 o’clock at night. This started happening more and more frequently.
It took a toll in your relationships. It took a toll on your work life. It took a toll on your health. Now, more than a year removed from the last time you exercised seriously, you also realize you haven’t sat down in your own house to enjoy a nice a home-cooked meal. You’ve cooked for your father plenty and instead of sitting down with him to eat, most of the time you were running around, doing the laundry, vacuuming, cleaning things, and helping him with other tasks he is no longer capable of doing.
If that’s the case, you should consider help.
Home care is a great option to consider. You may not have wanted to go this route, mostly because of certain misconceptions or preconceived notions you had about home care aides. However, it is one of the best options to consider and is the most affordable one for those who need short or long-term care and wish to remain at home.
When you don’t take care of yourself, you will reach a point when your own health is compromised, and you may need assistance next. Don’t let yourself reach that point; talk to him about home care now.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Drexel Hill, PA, please contact the caring staff at True Direct Home Health Care at 215-309-3119.
Doc, as he is called by everyone - staff, patients and clients - first experienced home health care and hospice care while as a colleg student at King's College as he cared for his mother every day as while she first battled COPD and then lung cancer. It was during this time that he came to understand that caring for a patient was more than just clinical expertise. "Admittedly, my strongest attribute is my communication skills and the simple fact that I love to help people. Even the smallest thing you can do for someone really can mean so much to them long term. In fact, it could change them forever. That's what providing quality personal home health care should be all about."
In his spare time, he cooks for homeless shelters and children's music and arts events. He also is highly involved in his local youth sports soccer academy as a coach and Board member.
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